As you know, WHAT WE FOCUS ON IS WHAT WE GET.
However, do we realise to what extend we focus on something?
When a focus becomes an obsession, our attitude shifts and we are disregarding everything else, caught in the obsession. For example:
One of the two business partners, owners of a very good business, found a new lover. Obsessed in that love and focusing on how to get cautiously out of his marriage, the partner became totally disinterested in the business.
He became totally despondent to the point he wants to close the business, not even thinking of alternatives, just like asking his business partner to buy him out.
In conclusion: We are all volunteers, victims of our own thoughts.
I hope this will give an insight of what you are focusing on when things are not going well in your life.